by Jasmine Rose
There are many different kinds of love. For example, there’s platonic love, romantic love, familial love, the love of travelling, and the addicting kind of love that I seem to have for coffee and chocolate. With all these different forms of love, I often wonder why we tend to hyper-focus on the one specific kind of love that most single people dread on Valentine's day: Romantic Love.
Now, I do have to admit that when I came up with the original idea for this article, it was going to be about Anti-Valentine's day; about my defiant, bitter rebellion against the mushy gushy traditions of “love” day. Originally, I wanted to state how bitter my friends and I are about the overly advertised commercialism surrounding it, and how we didn’t need boyfriends/girlfriends or that special someone on Valentine's day. We didn’t need, and didn’t want, someone to cuddle with or to bring us the flowers we could only dream of receiving. We would roll our eyes at couples passing by, showing off their significant others with public displays of affection and pride. We would scoff at the Instagram posts of our friends and how they received chocolates, flowers, teddy bears, and heart shaped balloons from their partner. We were willing and ready to sit in our PJ’s with tissue boxes and ice cream and movies to accompany us (which I will most likely do anyways). Movies that would more than likely remind us of the pang in our hearts that comes from being alone on Valentine's day. This is a sharp reminder of being alone, and that we didn’t have a Judd Nelson or a Patrick Dempsey or Humphrey Bogart to kiss us on the back of a lawn mower, or thrusting their fists into the air because they know they got us, or kissing in the rain with complete passion while about to leave on an airplane for Paris possibly to never see each other again.
When I called up one of my best friends to ask for her opinion as to what I should write about, and which idea out of the ones I pitched to her she liked best, she said something that surprised me and changed my whole perspective on Valentine's day. I can’t remember the exact wording, but it was something along the lines of, “Well, why does it have to be an angsty Anti-Valentines article? I know for me on Valentines day my family and I are going to bake together and have a little party. Valentine's day doesn't have to be about relationship status, you can almost have more fun being single. Write about the love that you have for your family and friends, that’s the long lasting kind of love”. That really put things into perspective for me. For the majority of my young life, I have been in and out of relationships. I think I’m afraid of being alone, and haven't really taken time to just be by myself and be happy with that. So I decided to put myself into more positive shoes, and find out what Valentine's day is really about.
A wise woman once said, “Every day should be like Valentine's Day”. It took me awhile to find out what that meant, but I understand it now. Every day should be a day to tell someone that you have a crush on them, or that you think they’re cute, or that you love them. We only have one life to live, and no one is ever truly prepared for love. If we wait until we are ready, we might never get across how we feel. Appreciation of the people who we love, who surround us and have a positive influence on our everyday lives, should be an ongoing thing. Let the compliments fly, give little thoughtful gifts, and let people know how they make you feel daily.
Thinking about the extra effort we can make to share the love, here are some ways to help you enjoy Valentine's Day, even if you are single:
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